Sometimes to fully change, you need to leave your common life environment for a while.
And come back as a fully new person. If you out of job activities does not let you to change the way you feel, you need to do something bigger. Good thing do not disappear. Chances are many and given. The only - if you take them. Fear is something which can stop transformation. The change should be made, and sometimes a sharp one, to result into your life as you want it.